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The Coach Approach

By Jille Bartolome  December 11, 2017

Coaching is a highly effective way to move past the barriers that hold you back in your life instead of getting stuck in a pattern of hoping to succeed.

Success in life is not about hope or luck or wishes. Success in life is about breaking through the barriers that hold you back by expanding who you are so that what you do and how you do it is effective and at the same time totally you.

The coach approach can help you do just that. You no longer have to live a life waiting to succeed or holding back because of fear. You can use the coach approach to move to higher and higher levels of who you are in this world and have unequaled success in your life.

Life does not have to be hard. We are trained to think that it is. Success in business does not have to be hard. We are trained to think that it is illusive.

When you apply the coach approach to your life and business, the world becomes softer place where you achieve everything you desire and deserve.

A good coach is someone who can guide you to achieve your dreams. A great coach is someone who gives you the tools to guide yourself to achieve your dreams. So, since part of my purpose on this earth is to be a great coach, my objective in creating this post is to give you the tools you need to apply the coach approach.

When we talk about the coach approach the first thing we have to look at is your come from point. What is your overall perspective on life? Is it hard, is it difficult is it fun, is it impossible. The coach approach starts with an overall perspective or come from point that problems are actually opportunities for personal growth and positive change. Any come from point with a negative perspective will not serve you in your quest to move forward in your life and business.

There are actually 4 general stages of awareness, or come from points that you might fall into. As we go through them be honest with yourself as to where you are that you can create a new possibility for your life.

The first Stage is a Commitment to Powerlessness. During this stage you believe that life and your experience of it, happens to you. You feel powerless, and get caught up in blaming others or the world for your circumstances.

The second Stage is a Commitment to Overcoming Challenges: In this stage, you believe that you can play a role in creating your life. You seek to improve your experience by changing your external circumstances. You get caught up in working hard to create external change.

The third stage is a Commitment to Power via Ownership: Now we are getting somewhere. In this stage you believe that reality is a reflection of the inner self. You seek to create change by taking responsibility for your choices, beliefs and emotions, and cultivating a more loving relationship with yourself. You discover the resources of your inner power.

The fourth stage is a Commitment to Receiving for No Reason: This stage is available to all of us. During this stage you awaken to the knowing that you are completely loved by the source of all love. Rather than seeking to improve your experience, you allow yourself to love and be loved. You receive, not because you earned it, but simply because you are you and that is enough.

It is important to note that moving through the previous 3 stages, no matter where you start, prepares you to receive in the fourth stage. How can you know light if you have never known dark? How can you know what we want if we never experience what we don’t want?

So, where are you? What is your come from point? Are you powerless in your life and a victim of your circumstances? Or are you constantly overcoming life’s challenges? Are you owning your own responsibilities in creating the life of your dreams or are you receiving for no reason?

Through the process of coaching, you can identify and move to any stage that serves you.

Beyond your current come from point or stage of awareness, there are several different elements that combine to create the coach approach. There is a skill set, a state of being and several key distinctions of what coaching is and what coaching isn’t. For our purposes today, Let’s start with what coaching is and what coaching isn’t. In the coming months, we will look at the tools and distinctions that create the coach approach.

Coaching is a tool used to develop people and organizations to identify their purpose and to create a life or business that allows and supports that purpose. As cliché as it might sound, coaching really is about you achieving your full potential and living with integrity and purpose.

The coaching relationship is interdevelopmental, meaning that both the coach and the coachee develop and grow throughout the process of coaching.

In a healthy coaching relationship, there is no dependency upon the coach and the coach is not dependent upon the client.

Coaching is not mentoring. A mentor is someone who has been down the path before you and can tell you how they did it and what to do. A coach will ask you the questions you need to explore in order to find your own path.

Coaching is not Therapy. A Therapist is someone who digs into your past in order to help you process the negative emotions that might be holding you back. A coach keeps you focused on what you are doing right now so that you create a compelling future for yourself or your business. The Therapist approach is to assume there is something wrong that needs to be fixed. The coach approach is to assume that you are perfect exactly how you are and given everything that you have been through and that your beliefs might not be supporting your vision. There is certainly a time and a place for therapy and coaches will refer someone to a therapist if there are issues from the past that need healing. A coach works with healthy people who may be standing in their own way.

Coaching is not management. A manager or director is a person who is in a position above the person and who tells the person what to do and what not to do. A coach is a person who is objective in the situation and asks the person to find the best most personally integral way to do something. A coach has nothing to lose or gain by the success of the coachee (except knowledge of a job well done). That is not to say that if you are a manager or director you cannot use the coach approach as it is a profound, useful and extremely effective way to move people towards their goals.

Coaching is not Consulting. A consultant is a person who has a certain expertise in a certain area who tells people or companies what to do and how to do it. Consultative sales is an effective way to sell, but combined with the coach approach, in other words, making sure you understand the needs of the customer by asking questions and supporting the customer in their own problem resolution is an even more effective way to sell products and services.

Coaching is not about motivation. External motivation of any kind pulls people off their path. A coach is in the business of guiding their coachee’s to find their own internal motivation for achieving their purpose.

A coach keeps every aspect of their coachee in mind while in the dance of the coach approach.

As you may know I am on faculty at Coach U, an ICF certified training school for coaches and the first school to publish college text books for the teaching and learning of coaching. In the Coach U text book Personal and Corporate Coach Training Handbook, There is a brief and powerful description of what the coach does in terms of Developing all areas of a coachee.

A Master coach seeks to develop the coachee in every sphere of influence and every part of their being and doing.

In Developing the whole person, a coach works with the coachee in all 5 of the following areas:

  • Mind – The ability to think
    Improve their good judgment
    Reducing reaction time to events
    Giving them new ways to make decisions
    Expanding ways of thinking
    Increasing their capacity to learn quickly
  • Heart – The ability to feel
    Improving their ability to distinguish between a feeling and an emotional reaction.
    Increasing their ability to give and receive love
    Expanding their ability to relate and connect with others.
  • Spirit – The ability to Enjoy
    Providing expanded perspective
    Increasing the capacity for inner peace
    Helping them become more aware of self, others and life in general
  • Business – The ability to succeed in business
    Adding value to their customers faster than their competitors.
    Increasing their ability to enjoy their work.
    Improving their innovative and creative abilities
    Assisting with the balance of life and work
  • Environment – Awareness and control of surroundings
    Increasing the awareness of surroundings and the ability to control them
    Improve their available resources and network
    Upgrading home and office environments
    Improving health and wellness through the environment

There are several other areas that coaches work in with their coachee’s on a regular and objective basis as well. These include personal responsibility, relationships, developing and maintaining a healthy body, eliminating stress, creating a vision, attraction principles, building wealth and reserves, living in their purpose, living in integrity and staying focused in the present.

Anyone who calls themselves a coach who does not work in all of these areas with their coachee is not really a coach. They may employ coaching skills, but unless the process is holistic, chances they are or they are being a consultant, director, mentor or manager.

In the coming months, we will examine more of the Coach Approach and how to use this powerful tool to guide yourself and the people around you to higher levels of success and motivation. In the meantime, What are you taking from this post? Please comment below.

With Love,


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